I and my family were watching the film Mulholland Drive. It’s a neo-noir mystery film about a woman who survived a car crash on Mulholland Drive in Hollywood Hills. Injured and in shock, she makes her way down into Los Angeles and sneaks into an apartment. Investigation of that accident brings new and new mysteries and makes you see how everything that is happening with us is in fact one big illusion. It suddenly hit me like a bolt of lightning. How many times we misdiagnose a situation. How many times we carry on a path not knowing that our assumption have taken us miles off course? It’s like playing golf and only knowing how to use three clubs and having to use them in every situation. Or, looking through a camera zoom lens instead of a wide angle.
The fact is that most of our lives are spent reusing the information collected in our formative years. Thus, when anything new enters our arena we immediately go to the past to try to make sense of it. The outcome is: we each live an illusion. We each see our world through some really heavily tinted spectacles. We each act as though we are a hammer and everything that comes in front of us is a nail.
The problem is. IT’S A LIE!
It’s amazing how easily we fall into the trap. How easily we interpret what is happening before our eyes and make it logical. How easily we find the closure. To make us comfortable we want to put things into a comfortable category or a box. In the same way a librarian codes books for easy access: “Ah! That goes in the family box.” “That is rude behavior.” That is unacceptable in public.” “That shows he is uneducated.” etc etc etc… Yes, you could argue that this form of coding is important because it helps us get through life quickly. BUT!!! Why do we like to put ourselves and others into ‘psychological boxes’? What is it about us that we like to say we are this type of person or that? Why do we want to limit ourselves? Why do we want to sell ourselves short?
It’s like being a carpenter who only has a hammer in his toolbox. We are restricting ourselves beyond belief. Just imagine how restricting it would be if you only had a hammer in your toolbox? How can you get passionate about anything if all you are capable of is knocking the brains out of any information that comes your way? How do you find out what you were brought onto this planet to do if all you can do is respond in the same way to whatever is put in front of you? How do you develop and grow your children if all they see is the same behavior irrespective of the problem posed? How do you rise to the challenges of our society if all you do is apply the same reasoning even though it doesn’t fit?
Unfortunately, most people, naturally don’t like getting into someone’s shoes, and don’t like challenging and questioning themselves because we DON’T LIKE HARD WORK!
This is why we like to categorize situations and people? We don’t like the pressure of being our true selves, because to do that we have to stand out. We can’t cope with being unique and extraordinary, so we just want to be similar and ordinary. Many are afraid of who they might be. Afraid that they can’t be successful. Many even afraid to admit to themselves that they have a talent because then they might have to do something with their lives.
Is it that we don’t really want to find out who we really are and what we are capable of?
I don’t know about you, but I want you to be unique! I want you to find out and use your uniqueness. I want you to be fulfilled. I want you to find your energy source that is released when you are doing what you are intended to do.
I have come to realize that what stops us from being in the flow all the time; what stops us from releasing our passion; what stops us from behaving naturally; what makes us waste energy is nothing else but our own Mind Blocks.
Mind Blocks keep us placing people and situations into categories.
Mind Blocks stop us from leading ourselves.
Mind Blocks stop us from letting go of the past.
Mind Blocks keep our habitual patterns in place.
Being frightened and feeling second best stop us from finding our true selves.
Mind Blocks bury the natural you.
“A musician must make music, and artists must paint,
a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself.
What a man can be, he must be” Abraham Maslow
More about Mind Blocks and how to overcome them can be found in my book Overcoming The 15 Categories of Rejection.